1. 21:49 2nd Sep 2014

    Notes: 2578

    Reblogged from hobbitkaiju

    Tags: information

    fr0ttagecheese said: Hi! I'm sorry, but I've always been confused about what fetishization is when it comes to m/m and why it gets thrown around so much when women write I've asked other people, but always got answers that kept me confused. Could you help me out?

    cjtheoracle:

    bisexual-books:

    teacupnosaucer:

    Fetishization is basically when you dehumanize someone “other” from you specifically for your sexual pleasure. Say, if you look at your History teacher  who is an East Asian woman and you can’t keep yourself from thinking of her as a sexual object (because she’s “submissive” or “petite” or whatever other sexual stereotypes people believe about Asian women) when you should be looking at her as a person and a professional. Or maybe you have a fetish for trans women, or fat women, or black men. You can’t see them outside of a sexual context and sexualize them against their will. You don’t look at them as people. You don’t respect their boundaries. When they don’t conform to your sexual desires—the fat woman doesn’t want you reblogging pictures of her in her wedding dress to jerk off to, or the Asian woman refuses to be submissive and giggly and instead demands your respect, or the trans woman refuses to tell you about her genitals—then you become hostile and even violent because that person “betrayed” you and refused to be the sexual object you are trying to force them to be. 

    When we’re talking about M/M specifically, we’re talking about treating gay or queer men as sexual objects in much the same way. Your neighbour is a gay man and you need to riddle out whether he’s a top or a bottom. Your son is gay and you treat him like he’s a character in your favourite queerbaiting tv show. A gay man who doesn’t sexually please you—because he’s a POC or he’s fat or disabled or he just plain doesn’t want to be nice to you—is a person you want nothing to do with, because he has nothing to offer you sexually. With gay people, you see their sexuality first and their individuality second, or last, or never at all. 

    Now, not everybody is going to agree with me on this, but I think fetishization requires a certain amount of privilege between the parties: a white person dehumanizing and sexualizing a black person, a cis person dehumanizing and sexualizing a trans person, a man dehumanizing and sexualizing a woman, a straight person dehumanizing and sexualizing a queer one. 

    So is M/M written by women fetishistic? It certainly can be, especially when it’s produced/consumed by straight people. However, I’m very much not okay with blanket condemning it as such, especially when we’re talking about queer authors/readers. I take it on a case by case basis. Some books or authors or individuals, you get the sense that they only care about queer issues insofar as the queer people involved give them sexual pleasure—for example, someone who reads M/M but doesn’t support marriage equality or otherwise opposes LGBT issues politically, or someone who writes M/M but is dismissive or oppressive of anyone who isn’t a sexy cis gay man, ie they don’t have a care in the world for POC LGBT, or for trans people, or for queer women. Only the gay men they sexually fantasize about. 

    So basically: does the text/person treat queer people as objects? Do they dehumanize them? Do they put their sexual desires first when it comes to dealing with LGBT issues and people? Do they treat gay sex as something uniquely titillating specifically because it’s “exotic” and “other” or somehow superior to m/f or f/f sex for no discernible reason? Are they dismissive or hostile toward any queer person who doesn’t agree to or play along with their sexual fantasy or their expectations for how they should act? To me, this would all be signs that you are dealing with a fetishistic person or text.

    Any other queer people wanna weigh in on this?

    image

    *standing ovation for this post*

    Clearest definition/clarification of this I’ve seen yet.

     
  2. 19:38

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    Reblogged from crescent31

    Tags: tentacles

    cloven:

    repeating tentacle patterns~

    don’t even ask, I don’t know. free for use with credit!

     
  3. Anonymous said: newmann

    asexualarvo:

    THANK YOU SO MUCH I LOVE DOMESTICITY MEMES FOR THIS PAIRING

    Read More

     
  4. debriz:

    ▼パレットシリーズ

    ▼5色女子

     
  5. (Source: paxxan)

     
  6. 10:54

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    Reblogged from geiszlerandgaila

    Tags: Beautiful ArtGreen

    twisted-transistorr:

    paindemands-tob3-felt:

    pandabearjayy:

    I absolutely love the end result.

    i can’t believe i watched that

    i thought this was going to take me on a spiritual journey and it did

    (Source: iraffiruse)

     
  7. 08:44

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    Reblogged from jenniferhom

    Tags: i love coloursBeautiful Art

    jenniferhom:

line portrait, digital
experiment in after effects, as taught by sophia foster-dimino (aka, my gateway into anything remotely interesting i’ve done in the last three years)

    jenniferhom:

    line portrait, digital

    experiment in after effects, as taught by sophia foster-dimino (aka, my gateway into anything remotely interesting i’ve done in the last three years)

     
  8. 06:33

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    Reblogged from homuzu

    Tags: Pacific Rimalways reblog

    homuzu:

previously my sidebar image

    homuzu:

    previously my sidebar image

     
  9. 04:22

    Notes: 53

    Reblogged from irishsparkleparty

    Tags: Pacific Rimyes def

    irishsparkleparty:

    scribbled some zazzle tees with nerds in them

     
  10. 02:11

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    Reblogged from bubstepmix

    Tags: my everyday life

    5060072089124:

    *accidentally showers for 5 hours*

     
  11. 21:49 1st Sep 2014

    Notes: 6284

    Reblogged from bravinto

    Tags: Beautiful Arti love colours

    ryanpanos:

    Abstract Cities | Cvetelina Todorova

     
  12. 19:38

    Notes: 147386

    Reblogged from tatterdemalionamberite

    Tags: about me

    zagreus-taking-time-apart:

    "bisexual? you mean you’re experimenting?"

    *kicks test tubes and alien hybrid under a desk* “um no what do you mean”

     
  13. image: Download

    toastyhat:

sweetheartpleasestay:

queenconsuelabananahammock:

*passes out*

Everything about this lady is so on point I think I may have cut myself just looking at her tbh

I don’t want to be that guy butI’m pretty sure that’s human Kanaya

    toastyhat:

    sweetheartpleasestay:

    queenconsuelabananahammock:

    *passes out*

    Everything about this lady is so on point I think I may have cut myself just looking at her tbh

    I don’t want to be that guy but
    I’m pretty sure that’s human Kanaya

    (Source: blackgirlsrpretty2)

     
  14. 15:16

    Notes: 12294

    Reblogged from bubstepmix

    Tags: musicTLK

    Plays: 81,479

    apparentlyaries:

    If you’ve never sat down and listen to the Instrumental of He Lives in You from Lion King 2 you are missing out on life man

    it’s flawless

     
  15. thekaidonovskys:

    title: give your heart a break

    chapter three: play the scene of bringing all the good things out in me

    pairings: newt/hermann

    summary: “Okay. It’s, um… well, look. My list. There’s not much to it and it’s all very - innocent.” Newt knows he’s blushing, but tries to get his point across anyway. “They’re not real rewards, I know, not like the stuff you’re probably used to giving.”

    »read on AO3« 

    (chapter one here)